It seems everyone around me is either pregnant or has a baby....why is that? Even people who just got married are poppin up pregnant. Thats just what it seems like to me. Don't get me wrong..please...if you have a baby or are pregnant I am beyond happy for you. I am just wondering why it is that everyone I seem to know is either going to have or has kids.
Being married for 5 years I guess is weird and still not have a kid or two but let me explain the reasoning...b/c I'm starting to get the question, "well dont u want kids?" or "are u ever going to get around to it?" or some other question that has to do with being married for 5 years and still no kid.
Drew and I got married 5 years ago and everyone thought we were getting married because we were pregnant, or everyone thought we got engaged in high school cause we were pregnant. And now everyone thinks we are funny or weird to still not have kids after 5 years of being married. Ok so heres some reasoning. When we did get married we barely had a pot to pee in and a window to throw it out in (as my grandma would say) and we were both in school and school to both of us has always been a huge deal and goal. Now think would it be wise for us to have brought a child into this world when we neither one had an education or money and were livin from week to week? It would have been possible but truly not what we wanted for our future children...and now people ask well why not now?
It all goes back to the idea that Drew and I have come to understand...and that is when its time you'll know and if you can barely provide for yourself what makes it wise to bring a whole other person into this world that your mission is to care for. We want more for our kids than what we had....and further more I just dont feel ready yet...and gosh darn it I think thats ok! We are enjoying our time together just the two of us...constantly moving (seems like), traveling whenever we want, just being together just the two of us ...truly learning the wonders of commiting our lives to another person forever.
We will have kids but just not now....
Am I ready?....no not quite yet, I want to teach a while, and furthermore I shouldn't have kids right now medically b/c of the meds I'm on for my pacemaker and heart. Does that mean I cant have kids..nope but this heart stuff has to get figured out before I can think about trying to have kids....b/c obviously I wanna be around to see them! The other thing is since I've been in working at the daycare I know I don't want my kids from 8 weeks on in daycare day in and day out....its just personal opinion, I want to stay home with them and financially, and career wise I'm not ready for that. And I know I wont have family around to take care of them (if I did, that'd be different).
Am I more ready now than even last year? Oh yeah... I can't wait to have a baby, I wonder if the day will come some times, but then I remember that it will in time. I think right now ...I'm more ready for a baby than Drew is (he's still in 2 much love with his job to think about much else...which is good!) But this time next year...yeah I'll prolly be ready but who knows....God does and he knows when I'll be ready b/c becoming a parent is not something to go into lightly. And in the meantime I'm learning all the things to do with kids and not do..
Ok so now I feel better ...prolly until someone else asks me when I'm going to have kids again!
Just wanted to get that sermon and preachin off my chest:)
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I know exactly what you mean sista!!!!!
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